Friday, October 17, 2008

Paradise Rented Out...

She discovers the first sprout of life within her body. She does all she can to protect it. She eats and sleeps so that it grows healthy. She takes medicines and essential nutrients. She gets pampered and examined with care, all for the life growing within her.

She carries it and nourishes it with her own blood. She experiences the first ever movement of the life within her womb. She undergoes the pain and agony of labor. She puts her own life in stake and brings a new life to the earth. She gives the little one its first feed after birth.

Yet, it is not hers to claim; and never shall it be. She must hold complete indifference over the child and maintain the secret of its birth. The new-born is but a product of her business agreement.

Why? The egg is not hers; the sperm is not her lover's. She gets injected with both (or may be just the latter, in some cases.) She has rented her womb out for money - of which she is so much in need.

On the other hand, the couple who gave away the egg, the sperm, and probably a great deal of money are the rightful owners of the baby - yes, LEGALLY!

In most cases, I pity both the women. Yes, the latter deserves considerably pity too, if not as much as the former. I can very well understand the plight of a woman who realizes that she can never carry her own child in her womb. It is but a singular grief. She is therefore tempted to the alternative that the advanced medical science offers - to use a surrogate mother. After all the surrogate mother would be only a carrier. The child would have the life and blood of herself and her husband.

But, is it really worth it to put another woman's life in stake for your delight. And will it be a rightful joy, really? Can you hide the fact from the child that it was not you that bore it, but another woman, for your sake? It is certainly NOT like adoption, where the child was not borne for your own sake in the first place. It is a different thing altogether, and much more favorable.

Of course, it is difficult for anybody to give justice on this matter, because it involves two women who both deserve undue sympathy. However, renting out a mother's womb surely does not feel right to me.

20 comments:

மாதவராஜ் said...

தீபா!

நானும் இது போன்ற செய்திகளையும், ஏன் ஒரு கதையைக்கூட (சிவசங்கரி எழுதியது என நினைக்கிறேன்) படித்திருக்கிறேன்.
ஆனால் இத்தனை வலியை அப்போது உணரவில்லை.
இது விஞ்ஞானத்தின் வளர்ச்சியாக மார்தட்டுகிற காலத்தில், இரண்டு பெண்களின் இதயத் துடிப்புக்களை உனது எழுத்துக்களில் பார்க்க முடிந்தது.
நீ புரிந்து கொண்ட விதமும், சொல்லிய விதமும் மனதைப் பிசைகிறது.
வணக்கம் செலுத்துகிறேன் உனக்கு பெண்ணே!

abhinav said...

DEEPA IT GAVE ME EXTREME PLEASURE TO SEE THAT THE INDIAN GIRLS LIKE U DO REALLY THINK THE WAY THAT PROMOTED US TO TAKE UP THE MATTER ON THE LEGAL SIDE I WAS THE ADVOCATE IN THE MATTER OF SURROGACY . THE MANJHI CASE THE SO CALLED SURROGATE CHILD BORN IN ANAND GUJRAT TO THE JAPANESE FATHER .

YOU ARE RIGHT THAT IT DOES NOT APPEARS JUSTIFIED NOT ONLY TO U BUT THERE ARE LAKHS OF INDIANS WHO DO SUBSCRIBES TO UR VIEW .. I AM GREATFULL FOR SUCH A SUPPORTIVE BLOG. WE HAVE TRIED A LOT TO GET SOMETHING ON LEGAL BATTER WHICH WE HAVE ACHIEVED BUT THE APPROACH OF CENTRAL GOVERNMENT IS FAR DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND AS THEY ARE NOW GOING TO LEGALIZE SURROGACY IN THE COUNTRY THE BILL IS ON THE WEBSITE OF THE CHILD AND WOMEN WELFARE DEPARTMENT GOVT OF INDIA AND PEOPLE LIKE U MUST SEND OBJECTION TO THIS BILL TO BE PASSD IN THE PARLIAMENT..

THANKS

ABHINAV SHARMA
ADVOCATE RAJASTHAN

Deepa J said...

@Abhinav: Thanks Abhinav. Do please send me the link of the website you have mentioned.

@மாதவராஜ்: Uncle, இந்த என்னுடய கருத்து யார் மனதையும் புண் படுத்திவிடக் கூடாதென்று பயமாக உள்ளது. வெகு நாள் இதை ட்ராஃப்டில் வைத்திருந்தேன். இந்த ஜப்பான் குழந்தை செய்தி அறிந்து தான் இப்போது வெளியிட்டேன்.

ஆமாம், அது என்ன கதை, சிவச‌ங்கரியுடைய‌து?

மாதவராஜ் said...

தீபா!

கதையின் பெயர் அவன் அவள் அது. சினிமாவாகக்கூட வந்தது. சிவகுமார், லட்சுமி கணவன் மனைவியாகவும், ஸ்ரீபிரியா வாடகைத் தாயாகவும் நடித்திருப்பார்கள். அதில் ஸ்ரீபிரியாவைப் பார்க்காமலேயே, சிவகுமார் தனக்குப் பிறந்த குழந்தையின் மீதுள்ள பாசத்தால், ஸ்ரீபிரியாவைப் பார்க்க துடிப்பதும், கண்டுபிடித்து காதல் கொள்வதும், லட்சுமியிடமும் பாசத்தில் தவிப்பதுமாக கதை செல்லும். ஒரு ஆணின் பார்வையில் நிகழ்வுகள் இருக்கும்.கதை ஆனால் கதை எழுதியது சிவசங்கரி என்னும் பெண்!

Deepa J said...

அந்த சினிமா பாதி வரை ஒரு நாள் பார்த்திருக்கிறேன். இது தானா அதன் கதை?

அதே போல ஒரு ஹிந்தி சினிமாவும் உண்டு. அதில் வாடகைத் தாயாக ஒரு விலை மாது வருவாள். அவள் அந்த ஆணின் மீது காதல் கொள்வாள். (அவன் குழந்தைக்காக இவள் மீது காட்டும் பரிவினால்) ஒரு தெலுங்கு சினிமா கூட வந்த்து. விக்ரம் சௌந்தர்யா நடித்து. பார்த்த‌தில்லை.

ABHI said...

DEAR DEEPA I CANT' UNDERSTAND WHAT U HAVE SAID IN MALYALAM OR TELGU WELL ITS ALL JUST A BLACK FOR ME PLS WRITE IN ENGLISH SO THAT I MAY BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND . IT IS INTELLIGIBLE FOR ME.

THE LINK FOR THAT WEBSITE IS http://www.icmr.nic.in/art/Draft%20ART%20(Regulation)%20Bill%20&%20Rules%20-%202008-2.PDF CUT AND PASTE THIS LINK AND U CN READ THE BILL FOR 2008 AFTER DOWNLOADING

PLS FOR ME DO WRITE IN ENGLISH AND I HAVE UR MAIL ID SO THAT I MAY CONTACT U THERE ON UR MAIL...

thanks and regards'

ABHINAV

"Deepa J said...

அந்த சினிமா பாதி வரை ஒரு நாள் பார்த்திருக்கிறேன். இது தானா அதன் கதை?

அதே போல ஒரு ஹிந்தி சினிமாவும் உண்டு. அதில் வாடகைத் தாயாக ஒரு விலை மாது வருவாள். அவள் அந்த ஆணின் மீது காதல் கொள்வாள். (அவன் குழந்தைக்காக இவள் மீது காட்டும் பரிவினால்) ஒரு தெலுங்கு சினிமா கூட வந்த்து. விக்ரம் சௌந்தர்யா நடித்து. பார்த்த‌தில்லை.

Deepa J said...

@Abhinav: :-) It was my reply to the my uncle who had commented on this blog. I had differentiated by prefixing the commenter's name with "@".
My reply to you ended with what I wrote in English.

Anyways, what we were discussing was about Indian films that have been made on this subject and what issues they had addressed.

Guru said...

Deepa u r absolutely right. we cannot justify this in any ways. but deepa the world we live in,every thing has become a business. sadly human values never comes into picture :). imagine people who work undergrounds to keep our city clean. they are exposed to danger every day in their lives :(. imagine life of soilders who keep losing life for nothing :( . Everything has become a bloody business and we have no other go :)

Deepa J said...

Right Guru. Today we live in a world where money seems to make everything simple, but actually complicates and soils even the simplest and most beautiful things.

But the more you believe in something, the more value it gains, right?

Let's never ever stop believing in what matters to us the most. That, I think is the only go!

Guru said...

you are damn right :) .. if u get time do read ma blogs and share ur opinions on them :) .. it will be of great help .. thanks in advance :)

Ramki said...

It is a double-edged sword. For a woman who is medically unfit to carry a child, this can be a succor. For the woman who carries the child for 10 months only to let it go to the biological parents, this is hell. Hmmm...I read a news some years ago that a woman in England gave birth to her daughter's daughter. Grandma became a mom.

When talking about films, I think there is a Malayalam film 'Dasaratham' featuring Mohanlal and Rekha (of Kadalorakkavithaikal fame) that has the same theme.

Deepa J said...

Ramki, that England woman case is among their own family. so it should have been actually delightful. In that case, the grandmother did it out of love for her daughter. But what we are talking about is pure business here.

Deepa J said...

Hi Abhinav, I read the bill. though most of it was full of legal terms, i read the surrogacy part of it and the efforts to legalize it.

Why dont you arrange for an online signature campaign wherein we can get people to submit their disapproval, and you can take it to the higher authorities.

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